Thursday, February 21, 2008
Henderson/Gilding Article
The thing that stood out for me in this article was the definition of trust: it is a bet about the future contingent actions of others. It also mentioned that when we place trust, we are acting as if we knew the future. I never thought of trust in these terms. This was an eye opener for me or as Oprah calls it, a light bulb moment. When we trust someone, we are really anticipating that person to act a certain way in the future. That's simply what love is, a bet that a person will be honest and true within the life of the relationship. With the current divorce rate, apparently that's a bet that many people are losing. Even with sharing secrets with friends we are only hoping and wishing that the person won't betray our trust and continue to share the information with others. I am going to take a gamble and trust that my classmates will in the near future read and post a comment.
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Leslie, I completely agree that the definition was such an eye opener. Today in class when we were telling our definitions of trust, it was hard not to compare them to the Love. It is sad how high the rate of divorce that has happened, and most are because the breaking of the trust that we seem to, for lack of a better word, "trust" in.
Something I found to be interesting is that those that are more experienced actually trust more. I understand the reasoning completely, I just never really thought that I would trust the internet more than my grandparents.
OK so you can only write a little bit on there apparently. So here is the rest of what I was trying to say..
I had always thought that it was the naive that trusted more. From personal experience and more from my smart 13 year old cousin, who found internet to be a wonderful way to spend her parents money and think it was okay. That would be my only argument, that there are many that are naive and trust the internet and what is said on sites too much.
For the fear of making this thing mad I will stop typing :)
I love the idea that trust and love go hand in hand. (Pun intended)
I think trust is just another word for vulnerability. If you really trust someone, then you don't have to worry about making yourself vulnerable to them or showing them your weakness. This is key to love and relationships because of the level of interaction between the two people. I also think that we become better at trusting (predicting the future) as we age and gain experience. I'm not sure if that is a result of being able to judge the character of a person better or a result of being able to mitigate the damage from a relationship that fails.
I agree. I think that with age comes wisdom. You normally grow as you age, not fall back! Thats why they say never regret anything, everything happens for a reason, and learn from your mistakes. As you age you are able to read into people better, that is what is so hard with text only on the internet. I can see why it would take so long to really get to know somebody and be able to trust that person through the computer screen
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